Saturday, May 28, 2011

Its Kind Of a Tough Subject {Saturday Show Offs #10}

This weeks Saturday Show Offs is something Ive been working on that I am completely proud of.
Yet Its kind of a tough subject....
 (Terrible Picture of me.. I was very tired when I took this!)

So let me just start from the begging, You may remember a few weeks back I did a giveaway for
a custom designed birds nest necklace from me. After I announced the winner I got this email:
(These emails posted are completely unedited and posted with permission from Cherise)

Hello Maria! I still can't believe I won a custom made necklace from you! I'm SO STOKED! I blog-stalk you daily, and LOVE all the cute little things you make! I wish I had the energy and talent to do such awesome things! You are an inspiration to me, and I can't wait to wear my bird's nest necklace! I will wear it with pride! :)  I have 2 kiddos. My daughter, Amanda Grace just turned 6 back in March. She's just about as girlie as you can get, which so ISN'T me, lol! My son, Cash Daughtry, celebrated his 2nd birthday in early February. He's your typical rough-n-tumble boy, with the prettiest blue eyes imaginable (of course, I might be just a little biased!). Ok, ok, I'll stop there. I know you don't need to know all that, I just had to gush for a second. :) I know you're a busy lady, so I'll let you get back to it. Just let me know if you need anything else from me. <3

-Cherise Porter

Her email totally made my day! I was so happy for her.. obviously she loves her kids and I felt she totally deserved winning! So I asked her to chose the custom colors for her necklace and get back to me. Well it took quiet a while for her to get back to me. Then finally I got her second email explaining why....

So sorry it's taken me a couple of days to get back to ya! I've been super busy this week, WHEW! Anyway, I have thought it over at least a hundred times, and I have decided that I want a pink pearl for my daughter and a green pearl for my son. :) I also really struggled with whether or not I wanted to somehow symbolize/remember my  "angel baby " (I had a miscarriage at about 5 weeks in between my other two kiddos), but don't necessarily want to constantly have to explain another pearl. I know it's probably way too much to ask, but can you think of anyway that I could pay tribute to my sweet lost one without including a 3rd pearl? If not, it's totally ok... I just figured it wouldn't hurt to ask. :)

Anyway, my address is
(taken out for privacy)

No rush (though I am super giddy about getting it!)

-Cherise

So after reading that I was determined to figure out a way to honor and remember her angel baby. This meant a lot for me to do this, because I too have been through a miscarriage (twice actually).
I know what it means to want to hold onto the memory of a sweet little one who was lost too soon.
Yet also not want to have to answer a million questions, see the concerned faces, hear the sympathy and all that, that can go along with that. And with the necklace obviously she doesnt want to have to answer tons of questions about a NEW bun in the oven.. or try to explain why there is one more "egg" than people see in real life or know about. So I took some time to really think it over and came up with an idea we BOTH loved!
Here is a peek at her nest pendant:

And here is the necklace! 
Notice something a little extra in the chain?

My response to Cherise:
" I could put one white pearl in the chain. This pearl would represent your angel baby. See it wont be in the nest, but its still part of the necklace, just above in the chain....just as your angel baby is not in your home.. but in heaven above...yet still a part of your heart/life/family. So people wont assume anything or ask about a third baby. Hopefully they would just assume its just extra decoration to the necklace.. but if you want to explain you can." :)

She loved the idea... 
And I did too, so much so that after creating her necklace, I HAD to make one for myself as well! Here is my nest, Pink for Kiah, Green for Bruce Jr and Blue for Zander:

And here is my necklace: With TWO white pearls for my babies in heaven!
Two babies that I never got to hold in my arms, but STILL hold in my heart.

What are your thoughts?
Im actually very excited about this idea... even though the subject is tough, I love that I have a special way to honor and remember not only the precious little ones God let me keep, but also the ones He decided to keep with Him. And I also love that I could offer that to another Momma who needed that too. 
SO I have decided to start offering these special necklaces in my Boutique.
You can see the listings {here} for 1-4 pearls
and {here} for 5-8 pearls

Here is just another look at our necklaces together. The pearls in the chain actually sit higher up on the necklace when worn. But to fit it on the shot here they're closer to the nest. Check out the first picture of me wearing my necklace to see how it looks when worn. :)

I totally LOVE these necklaces. They are so special!

Id also like to share this poem I found when I was dealing with my first miscarriage. Because it touched my heart and I know it will yours. I know that miscarriage's are very common.. and sometimes you may feel like you had to hold in the pain, or didnt have any one to talk to about it.. so please feel free to talk or discuss anything in the comment section. Know that there are others who understand and you dont have to feel alone. :)

Little Angels
When God calls little children
to dwell with him above,

We mortals sometime question
the wisdom of his love.

For no heartache compares
with the death of one small child.

Who does so much to make our world
seem wonderful and mild..

Perhaps God tires of calling
the aged to his fold,

So he picks a rosebud
before it can grow old.

God knows how much we need them,
and so he takes but few,

To make the land of heaven
more beautiful to view.

Believing this is difficult,
still somehow we must try.

The saddest word mankind knows
will always be "Good-bye".

So when a child departs,
we who are left behind must realize

God loves children...
Angels are hard to find.

Author Unknown



It has been 4 years since my miscarriages, and I am not as emotional about it as I was.. when I think about it and remember it still gets to me. It still makes me cry, not hysterically or anything.. I know my two babies are in heaven, so I have a feeling of acceptance now.
Im so thankful for the Lord God who comforted me and eased the pain. HE of course knows what its like to lose a child. And I thank HIM also for that sacrifice to send HIS son so that we can be saved.
"For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him."
John 3:16-17

Now if anyone is interested here is a video I posted in 2007 when I used to vlog a lot on youtube, concerning my first miscarriage. I dont expect anyone to watch really.. just in case any one was curious or had questions.. they may be answered in the video.


Anyways.. before I end this post, I'd like to share a little sneak peek at something else I have been working on specially for Momma's. :) As an alternative to the birds nest necklace.. I thought it would be fun to start making some pea pod necklaces! Here are some pictures of an example for a Momma with a single child. :) I know a few people mentioned thinking a birds nest would look kind of bare with only one "egg" so here is an alternative. But this would look cute with several little "peas" too. :) So keep a look out for these to come to the boutique soon as well. :)
And of course I'd love to know what you think!

I really adore how they came out!


Well that was a very long post, But I do hope it was something that touched your heart and gave you a little encouragement. Thank you so much for stopping by and taking the time to read. :)
Cant wait to hear from you in the comment section!
Much Love & Hugs,

21 comments:

  1. Wow that is SUCH a great idea!! I'm definitely going to pass this on to some friends.

    Anna
    www.askannamoseley.com

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  2. thanks ever so much for sharing - your heart, your talents, your story.

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  3. WOW! What a beautiful idea. I love it, Maria. It's so wonderful I have tears in my eyes.

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  4. okay I love you 1 million times more now. your honesty and compassion are so awe-inspiring. Love you! I am going to have to get a necklace like this too. almost like yours 3 eggs in my nest and 3 pearls on the chain. this is the best ideas I have ever heard of! .

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  5. Crying. Seriously, like pretty close to sobbing. Thank you, thank you, thank you! I cannot wait to get that gorgeous necklace on! And trust me, I'll take lots of pictures! You are so awesome and uber creative! I plan on sharing this with everyone I know!

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  6. PS- I forgot to mention how much I loved the "pea in the pod" necklace! SO CUTE! Gah, I want just an ounce of your creativity!! :)

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  7. Touched my heart, babe! I want that peapod necklace for my BFF with a pearl in the chain. She has one beautiful five-year-old baby girl, and had a miscarriage last year due to ongoing health issues. She ended up having to have a hysterectomy back in March. She is only 26. They saved her ovaries and tubes so that if she wanted to try surrogacy in the future, she could, but now the problems she was having in her uterus are forming inside her ovaries, so she is just waiting for them to tell her they have to take it all. I've hated being so far away (she is in FL), not being able to hold her hand through all the pain and misery she endures everyday. So maybe this would be good for me to for her.

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  8. WOW!!! Seriously got me crying. Thank you for sharing your story. Also i LOVE the pea pod necklace idea they are SO cute.

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  9. That's a beautiful way to symbolize the lost ones. I cried as soon as I saw it!

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  10. I have not personally experienced a miscarriage but have many friend who have and I think that idea is perfect. I also love the pea pod necklaces- I might have to buy one!

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  11. Such a clever idea. I have several friends who would love this. I also love the pea pods. I think they're more my style, maybe because they're green only.

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  12. Oh Maria, your post was incredible.... I am so sorry for the pain of what you went through, I just felt so connected to you watching this, even though I've never been through one myself, and it was way before I ever knew you, actually even now obviously I've never met you, BUT gosh I so felt like I knew you even then, and I wish I could have been there to comfort you.

    You are so sweet Maria, and your necklace idea is so special. I love it!!! I'm going to share this on my blog today, if you don't mind. Just kind of do a little sneak peak, and forward them back here. I love ya girl, love your talent, your kind sweet heart, and your honesty and sharing this heartbreaking story with us all, but in the process doing so much for other mamas who have gone through this as well.

    Your pea pod necklace is awesome, and actually when I saw it I thought you were doing earings,,, :) That would be cute too!!!

    Keep up all that you do Maria, you are truly awesome. :)

    Hugs,

    Bella :)

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  13. Absolutely wonderful idea and beautifully made!

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  14. I love this idea<3 And they are both adorable, so creative!

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  15. these are so so lovely! You are so talented, Maria Isabel! And so sweet! thanks a lot for sharing this with us!

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  16. This is so wonderful, what a lovely thing to be able to have!

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  17. This is beautiful! You are brilliant! I may be looking at your shop soon...

    I have had 3 miscarriages and dealt with infertility between that, so this means a lot!

    Here is my blog about my journey through that hardship and gaining a stronger testimony of the love of Christ through it, if you are interested.
    www.cloudsarefarbehindme.blogspot.com

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  18. Wow! Cried my way through that post... I have a three year old boy, then last year had a miscarriage, and six weeks ago had a beautiful baby boy... What a neat way to remember without having to 'explain' if you don't feel like it. Beautiful work! Thanks for your story as well!

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  19. Could you make something that can be for a mother 4 angels but no earthly Children in her nest? something Inconspicuous?

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    1. Christy,

      Yes I did have one design where there is a heart bead in the nest rather than eggs, and then pearls in the chain. You can get an idea of how this looks in this old listing from my etsy shop here: https://www.etsy.com/transaction/82686990?

      ~Maria-Isabel

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